Sunday, January 11, 2015

Haters Gonna Hate - It's Time We Rise Above It.


Bullying has always been a problem, and it seems more so now than it ever has been. The hateful comments, putting people down, and the words that cut so deep just to make that person feel better about themselves. It's all a word war to see who can get the last word and what they can say about someone else to make themselves feel better. There's less of love from people, friends, and even our own family.

It's hard to shine and reflect light when you're in a forest of darkness, and that is why we are speaking out and grabbing the hands and hearts of people out there who have to go through the hurt every. single. day. Battling the hate of their families, being replaced with objects of the world such as things and money, and feeling invisible or just plain being cast out from people when we just want to be loved by them. It's time we all realize that the tighter you try to hold on to those type of people expecting them to someday change, the more disappointment and heartaches you're going to feel. You want the good news of all that? You can choose not to be around it. You will never get the outcome you crave for from people like that. And quite honestly-- you don't want it. You really don't. So let go of them and give yourself that freedom.

It's time we realize that haters are going to hate. We need to take control of the things that only we can control such as who we spend our time with, if we decide we want to love or hate, and if we want to spend our time lifting people up or pushing them down. It's time we let go of the "what if's" and start hanging on to the "what now's". Life is so full of worries on its own that we don't need to create any more. We need to live life to its fullest and focus on things that matter. We need to rise above the haters and remove ourselves from the clutches of darkness that they are so far in they can't even see their way out.

This also goes hand-in-hand with our Real Women Movement. It's not just the curvy women that have it hard. The girls that have a fitness lifestyle or the girls who can eat whatever they want and not gain a pound; Those girls have it really hard, too. With the hateful comments of
"Put some meat on your bones!" and
"Ew, you're too muscular, women shouldn't look like that!" and the comments to the curvy girls,
"Lose some weight! Quit being lazy,"

The haters are going to hate. Let's stop the judging and let's understand that if we feel strongly about something then they have to wear that weight. We aren't responsible for judging people and despising them for a lifestyle that they choose to live. We need to surround ourselves with positive people so we are influenced by positive thoughts and actions. Nobody likes a negative nancy, and if we fill our life with enough negativity, then we will become just that. Let's live our life loving one another and blooming into the individual flower that we all are. I know that sounds cheesy, but we need to stop with the hatred, bullying, and insecure mind set where we feel we have to put others down just so we can feel good about ourselves. There's nothing confident and beautiful about someone who hurts others.

This article was a little different for our Real Women Movement, but recent events had me inspired to write this piece. And if you're like me, then you will believe that if something wasn't supposed to happen-- then it wouldn't have.

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