|One of the pictures the community page used with |
hateful captions and comments.
No publicity is bad publicity as they say, which is why we decided not to use the name of this specific community page in this article. There are thousands of websites, pages, and even unhappy people out there body shaming one size or another... so this article is meant for all body shaming pages or websites out there making women feel bad about themselves.
Ruby Roxx, a plus size model located in Van Couver, ended up on this community Facebook page.
"At first I thought, what the hell?!" Ruby answered when we asked about it. "I have never been small framed, so for me to look like the altered image would mean I was deathly ill or not eating,"
|Ruby Roxx's picture that was taken and used on the community|
Facebook page to body shame her.
"It's never easy to hear negative things about yourself or things you cannot change," Ruby tells us. "I suffer from depression and anxiety and this really threw me into a downward spiral,"
Lucky for Ruby, she has a strong support system and thousands of people who look up to her and admire her beautiful pictures. Her profession is a model and body shamers can still make her feel bad about herself. So Candyland Lingerie asked how she pushes through it to help these girls who don't know how to move forward from it.
"This is the first time I spoke about my anxiety and depression publicly," she tells us but feels it will help girls out there who suffer from the same feelings. "People who suffer from these issues cannot simply just pull themselves together. Seeing the hateful comments on my picture such as "Disgusting" put me into a deep, downward spiral, and to be honest, I'm still not really over it,"
Ruby's support system includes her boyfriend, family, friends and even her Facebook fans.
She worked at putting an end to this page once she found it and all her hard work and determination paid off. The pages were removed.
"Yes, that page was expressing their opinion, but at what cost? What they were doing, simply put, is cyber bullying and it needs to stop,"
|Ruby Roxx during one of her Pin-Up Photoshoots by Pin-Up Perfection Photography|
"They not only shame women for their bodies but also their lack of potential, how happy they think they would be if they were slimmer, how they would look younger, or be more successful. That is crap. I reminded myself that looking a certain way doesn’t equal all these things, and I am doing JUST fine in the body that I am in. I reminded myself of all I had accomplished, all the wonderful things in my life, and most importantly, all the things I love about myself."
Ruby is not only a successful plus size model, but she also owns Beauty Mark Magazine, a magazine created to help people everywhere realize their own unique beauty, and that beauty comes in all shapes, and sizes, and isn't just restricted to the idealized forms of beauty most of us see in main stream media all over the world. Yeah... I'd say she is doing JUST fine in the body that she is in. Way to go, Ruby!
That Shaming Community Page had hurtful comments such as She could eat a few less cheeseburgers!
"I don't think anyone has the right to comment on anyone else's size, shape, height, weight, sex, or anything else that isn't their business." Cherry Dollface tells Candyland Lingerie. "I think the same is true if someone saw a skinny girl and said she needed to eat more cheeseburgers. They need to focus on themselves and figure out why they feel the need to judge others so harshly."
Cherry Dollface posts a "Deed of the Week" on her Facebook page to help spread the kindness. We asked her what she hopes to accomplish by posting it.
"Just hoping that people will be a little bit nicer and more thoughtful. There are already enough assholes out there"
Cherry's official Facebook page also posts "Before and After" pictures, but they are along some very different lines.
Help us spread the love and kick start our movement by putting #RealWomenMovement in the caption of your pictures and let's change the view of society... or at least help save a life or two!